My ex is great w kids now, making me rethink things, BUT when we were married he left when I was 6 months pregnant w our daughter, took my car away so u had to walk to work, when I coded w our son he was too busy at work to come to my last rites. Guess I answered my own question, love y’all we’re stronger then we know!
Yep. He’s a much better father and man to his new woman than he ever was in our marriage. It infuriates me.
It is one thing to step up and another to sustain that. Even if he does step up long term, it doesn't mean he could/ would have done that with you ever, for any reason. He would probably fall back onto the same patterns.
It’s just a matter of time...they can’t maintain the facade.
I know mine was a better husband and father to my kids than he was to his first family. But that's not saying much. He disappeared for 5 years of his oldest daughters life. I didn't know about all the crap the oldest daughter delt with until recently. I feel so sorry for her!!! Now he is repeating history with my 3 littles. Things would be so much easier if he would disappear from our lives!!! Soooo much easier!!!
You’re singing my song! Soooo much easier and HEALTHIER!
Glad for your kids he's stepping it up, but YOU deserve someone who values you in a way he clearly did not. I often have to refer to my mental list of shitty things my ex did to me as well...it's good to keep that list handy as a reminder that you deserve better. Alone is better than that. And I still believe someone will come along for each of us, someday, who will treasure us & would never even think to do even one of those shitty things.
Yes. Mine pays for his half as well as tuition, we split 50/50 custody and he (mostly) is cooperative about kid related issues.
We all hope the ex is a better father than husband after divorce. Don’t look back!
He is capable of incredibly cruel behavior! Mine did similar things along with a ton more horrible actions towards me and our son over the past 17 years. Doesn’t matter what he’s doing now. You can’t trust someone who did these horribly cruel things to you. Just think, you and your son could have died and he wasn’t there. Does it get much worse than that!!!??? Be cordial to keep the peace but you were sleeping with the enemy. He’s still who he is. The core of a person is either good or rotten. His core stinks!
It's a day for thanks. Be thankful he's stepped up, but never forget the past.
It’s so sad that so many people have the cruelty gene. If all humans lacked this, the world would be a much better place.
Yep, mine actually takes a more active role and has actually had the nerve to tell me there's problems with my parenting. When he left, he was like, all you do is feed our son pizza, burgers, and tacos. Well, in the beginning it was difficult to have any desire to cook. But now, a lot of times when my son comes home, he wants to eat because he didn't have enough to eat at daddy's. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black!